I had an amazing Thanksgiving Holiday Weekend!! The time away with my family was really needed. Being home now, I realize that I miss and love them more and more each day. I am a pretty lucky person as I have a great family! I might not say it or think it all the time; however I am very thankful for the parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins, God has bestowed upon me.
I also got to spend some time with a few old friends…and even was hit up by an old flame. You know, life sometimes is funny! What is it about the Holidays that makes people nostalgic for days gone by…aka the past?
I know sometimes I am guilty of this; however I try my best and hardest not to actually make that phone call or send that text. What’s the point? An Ex is an Ex for a reason, right? The funny thing is that this Ex has a particular pattern…I typically get a text message, email or note on facebook either around his birthday (which is in February) or my birthday and/or around Thanksgiving or Christmas. He’s so predictable like that and I do not know if he is aware that A.) He has this pattern or B.) That I know about this pattern or C.) That I wish he would just leave me alone.
I know I ALWAYS have the option to not respond or engage in any kind of communication with him…however what fun would that be, right? WRONG!! I am slowly starting to realize that it is time to start letting go. Not just of him, but of the old person I used to be and all of the things that come with it…such as old friends, memories (both good and bad), habits and behaviors. There is a new ME emerging and I am quite excited about these new changes. At least, most of the time, I am.
But I found a wonderful passage that helped me put things into perspective:
“In life, there’s many things that we have to learn to let go. We have to let go of situations, things, memories, people and even ourselves.
It’s easy to form an attachment to people and things. When you’ve formed an attachment to people and things, it can be a very painful experience and feeling when you realized that it’s time to let go. Even the mere thought of not having that person or thing in your life just squeezes your heart in pain.
However, there are times where you or that person has changed to the extent that it’s necessary to let go of the relationship or friendship, so that each of you can fulfill your life path.
Letting go of your past and memories are also extremely hard. Even though old memories can be tormenting, yet you might hold on to the past and refuse to move forward. However, by refusing to let go of the painful past, it’ll serve as a roadblock to love.
Letting go of your old self and the process of letting the new you emerge can be one of the scariest experiences in your life. But by leaving behind your old self and taking a leap of faith into the unknown, it might just reveal what you are truly capable of becoming.“
Change can be a scary and isolating thing to experience; although it is needed from time to time. I am hoping that the changes and decisions I am making now, will place me on a path of happiness and contentment. As the year winds down…here’s to not waiting until New Year’s Eve to start making changes!!
