“The very person you find it hardest to forgive is the one you need to let go of the most. Forgiveness means letting go. It has nothing to do with condoning behavior, it’s just letting the whole thing go. We do not have to know how to forgive. All we need to do is be willing to forgive. The Universe will take care of the hows.” -Louise L. Hay
So….I have decided that I am no longer going to entertain a certain gentleman’s text messages. I am over it…tired, bored and in need of something real.
So……I have had an interesting week, to say the least, but I wanted to share an epiphany I unearthed. I was talking to one of my girlfriends and she asked me how my ex-boyfriend was doing. I paused and thought about it as I had not seen him since the Holiday Season. I sort of stuttered “He’s doing okay, at least the last time I saw him, he looked good.” Our conversation continued, but for some strange reason, I could not help but feel guilty about not really knowing how he was doing.
To remedy that strange feeling, I gave my ex a call. He answered and we exchanged pleasantries for a couple of minutes. Then the interrogation began. He asked me about work, school and my love life; the latter caught me off guard. To be honest, I really have been focusing on myself, work and school…so I told him as much. Apparently, he had just gotten out of a long distance relationship. REALLY!?!? Funny thing, I did not really care. Good for him! However, when he mentioned he had traveled, out-of-state, twice to see her in a six month period, I felt a little disrespected.
You see, I was with my ex for a little over a year and he was anti-taking public transportation to come see me. So, I always had to go to him. Yup, that’s right…he had no car as he was a broke, grad student…I guess I was going through a phase…but I digress. Somehow, this new girl was able to get him to not only leave the state, but he got on a plane and paid for it…not once, but twice!! I was impressed and again, I told him as much.
Hence, my epiphany…basically, you cannot make someone do something they do not want to do. Ergo…all the begging, pleading and asking will not change anything, if the other person is not invested and/or care. I know this is common sense..but DAMN…it took me talking to my Ex about his last relationship for me to realize this. Shaking My Head (SMH)…what a shame! However, this epiphany is so timely, as I am trying to figure out what to do with the guy that has me Chasing Pavements.
But wait…I heard this Bonnie Raitt song at the dentist’s office this morning and it solidified my epiphany! Sigh…
I saw this question on another blog and stole it…thought it was interesting. Yikes, honestly, I don’t know! As I believe it totally depends on the situation. But that is just me…now I’m posing the question to you:
Actually, I should have titled this post…New Crush Alert! Yes, I have a new crush. He’s tall, dark and handsome…just how I like them. He’s funny and smart; however he sees me at my worst. At the gym, crack of dawn, with no make-up on, my hair pulled back in a ponytail and raggedy sweats. Sigh, while I do not want to be one of those women who wears make-up, earrings and little clothing to the gym…I do need to step my game up!
On an uber positive note, I have lost almost 20lbs since I started working with my trainer! I have not really noticed a difference in my appearance yet; however my co-workers have and their comments are motivating me to continue on. Here’s to the next 20lbs!!
