So, this week I did something that I swore I would never do again…I joined Facebook! Now let me preface this by saying, I have been on Facebook before and had several negative experiences and just decided it was not for me. Now that I am back on it, and I have quickly realized why I really do not like this social network site. Trolling the different pages makes me very nostalgic and reminiscent of relationships and friendships lost.
This time around, I have decided to keep it very simple and become friends with people who are truly my friends and hold a level of importance in my life. The last time I was on Facebook, I succumb to the notion of friending (and accepting friend invitations) from individuals who were more like acquaintances than friends. These actions lead to so much drama and a level of discomfort for me. I understand that networking is a part of life and specifically a professional life, but at a certain point, something’s gotta give!
I have to be honest, I love and hate that I have the ability to visit friends of friends’ pages; that is just a horrible feature and I see how it can get people in trouble! Being able to see pages of people from my past has been really hard on my psyche. I have come to the realization that I am not a really easy person to get along with and thus have a number of people who I have had falling outs with or no longer speak to. However, it is really hard for my to see these individuals pages’ months and years later and comprehend how some of my really good friends can still be associated with them on Facebook, but I digress…
One of the reason I started blogging was to really take a deep (and realistic) view into my life and my relationships (and friendship) issues. Meeting people and becoming friends with them is easy; however I have a hard time keeping and maintaining friendships overtime. And I really want to understand why??? Not to be naïve, I know I am a very straightforward person (and sometimes very blunt and assertive)…I don’t like BS, hypocrisy and individuals who are not real (and phony). For some reason, a lot of the people I seem to have come in contact with in the last ten years have fallen into one of these categories. However, from their pages, I am the only one who seems to see (or experience) their fakeness and bad behavior.
While I know I am not perfect…I know that I bend over backwards (and go above and beyond) for my friends and family. My mother told me that I have really high expectations of people and when they do not meet them, I become upset and toss them away and that is not a realistic way to behave. I’m just at a loss when it comes to extending my friend base…and uncertain how to change things…I’m hoping being on Facebook will help me reconnect with a few people I’ve lost contact with over the years…only time will tell!
Oh wow. I re-activated my facebook last weekend and was completely bombarded! I de-activated that facebook and made a complete new one. I currently have 10 friends on their
I wrote a complete post on that if you care to read.
“My mother told me that I have really high expectations of people and when they do not meet them, I become upset and toss them away and that is not a realistic way to behave.”
This is completely true of me. My mom hasn’t told me this but I did have several friends relay this to me but to cut me slack I reach that high expectation towards my friends, as well.